One of the great misconceptions about how to get people to bond with you is based on the idea that the good things we do for others will cause them to connect to us. Not only is this not always true, sometimes doing things for certain people will cause them to despise us. Second, even if someone does bond to us it doesn’t mean we feel a bond to them. Third, if we do things for others for the purpose of getting them to connect to us we haven’t given them a gift; we have given them a payment, bribe or manipulation. This means that even if they respond it can never truly feel genuine to us. Here’s the thing we fail to realize: giving or sacrificing to another person doesn’t necessarily draw them to us, but it does draw us to them. As that sense of connection grows in us we are delusional to think they are having the same experience. JOIN ME this week and turn a new page in your life that will teach you how to connect to others and what you can and can’t expect from them.
I do things for people and it seems like no one ever wants to help me.
