Quote for Blog - 042016My first and earliest emotions were hatred and murder. I constantly imagined ways to kill my father and my stepfather. No one around me knew the deep levels of hatred and anger I carried that caused me to be violent and unkind to people who didn’t deserve it. It stole my youth and created issues I spent years overcoming. But here is my secret to overcoming that desire to hurt and kill:

I killed all of those who hurt me! Before you run out and do something violent, continue reading. I killed them by leading them to Jesus. In Christ the old men they were died and they were raised up a new creation in Christ. Freedom from Emotional Debt is freedom from the hatred and anger that’s stealing your life!

In My Journey to Wholeness, I soon realized my hatred for those who brought me pain was only hurting me, not them. The longer I held on to the pain of the past, the longer I allowed their actions to hurt me. It was like giving them permission to keep hurting me.

One of the greatest game changers was when I realized the word “forgiveness” simply means “to send away.” Forgiveness isn’t saying, “What you did is alright. I’m just going to let it go.” And it isn’t saying that I need to trust or have a relationship with that person. It means I should send away the pain of the offense. When I sent away the pain, the person who brought the pain became a non-factor in my level of peace and joy.